Nadine Lustre debunks fake 'mirror method' quote
Nadine Lustre called out a Facebook page for misattributing a quote to her regarding the so-called "mirror method." While she's at it, she noted how she doesn't believe in the method.
On July 29, "Chismis Vlog's," which shares celebrity updates to its 164,000 followers, posted a quote card of Lustre supposedly talking about returning the favor to someone who hurt you.
"I started using the ‘Mirror Method,'" the quote read. "‘Di ka nila binati nung birthday mo? Don’t greet them also. ‘Di ka nila inaya sa gala, ‘wag mo din silang yayain. ‘Di ka nila chin-check? STOP checking on them too. Just give them the same energy they’re giving to you. Trust me, life feels light when you do this."
The post reached over 149,000 reactions and 58,000 shares.
But Lustre soon caught wind of it and told her 6.1 million followers on Facebook that it's not her words.
"Parang di ko naman po sinabi 'yan," she said in the caption of her shared post on July 30. Her post got over 480,000 reactions (mostly "Haha"), 9,900 comments, and 5,300 shares.
In the comments section, Lustre took the matter in stride and even cracked a joke, much to the amusement of users.
"[Itong] mga chismis blogs na to makapagpost lang talaga ng content eh," she wrote. "Baka sa Q4 buntis na naman ako ha?"
"'Di ko nga alam kung ano 'yung mirror method na 'yan. Alam ko lang Mirror Mirror by M2M," she said, referring to the hit of the Norwegian pop duo who performed in the Philippines last May.
The mirror method appears to be a new variation of the Golden Rule, which is the principle of treating others as one would want to be treated by them.
It has started gaining traction on social media platforms where users share the same sample situations to illustrate the concept, such as not greeting someone on their birthday if they didn't greet you before.
In a separate post, Lustre indulged in the matter and shared her take on the method.
"Just my two cents on the matter tho," she said. "I honestly don’t believe in mirroring coldness just because someone chose to forget, ignore, or not show up."
She noted that one isn't required to retaliate against anyone who made lapses.
"Mas mahalaga pa rin na piliin mong maging mabuti, kahit walang kapalit," she said. "Because kindness isn’t for them, it’s for YOUR soul. If sinaktan ka, and it’s gotten to the point where you no longer speak, still… always wish them well."
She advised the public to "cut them off" instead.
"You don’t have to go back. You don’t have to reconnect. But you can let go with love. You can walk away without carrying heaviness in your heart," she added.
Lustre pointed out that in such an action, it's not resentment that sets one free but rather "the quiet, steady peace of knowing you’ve already forgiven them, even if they never asked."
"You let go not because they deserve it, but because you deserve peace," she said. "Take care of your soul, not your ego."
She reminded everyone that it's not people surrounding them who keep tabs but the universe.
"So keep choosing light," she said. Keep choosing love. That’s where true healing lives. Trust me, life is so much better when you do this."
In the comments section, many of her fans praised her for her mature advice.
"True maturity is choosing peace over resentment, thank you for sharing this," one user said.
Another wrote, "This resonates with me on such a deep level. Letting go with love instead of resentment that’s the kind of peace I’ve been learning to choose too. Thank you for reminding us that kindness is for our soul, not for anyone else’s approval."
The page has yet to comment on Lustre's statement, while its post remains online. (with reports from John Patrick Ranara)
